Even if you’re typically a monogamous person, when you’re still
in the beginning stages of finding a new relationship, there’s
no harm in exploring what’s out there before settling down with
someone. Here are 12 reasons to consider dating multiple
people, simultaneously — it might seem like a whirlwind, but if
it helps you find the right person for you faster, then it will
be more than worth the craziness.
1. It’s Empowering
Dating can make you feel helpless sometimes like you’re at the
mercy of whomever you happen to be emotionally invested in at
the time. But if you’re taking control of your dating life and
have the foresight to say, “Hey, I think I’ll dip my toes in
several ponds, just because I can,” it will make you feel a lot
less afraid of rejection in the long run. That doesn’t mean
that emotions can’t get involved with more than one person; it
just might cushion the blow if things don’t work out with one
person. You’re in control of your own love life, and you should
never feel like you’re waiting around for someone to break your
2. Comparison Helps
This is where dating multiple people really helps. If you have
more than one person on the docket, it can be easier to
recognize what qualities in each person you really admire (or
which ones you loathe). When you’re in the moment, you can be
blinded by lust, and it can be difficult to really take a step
back and assess if someone is right for you. If you spend a
Friday night with someone and it’s only mediocre, then have an
amazing brunch date with someone else on Sunday, it will make
it easier to cut your losses with the person who is only so-so.
3. You Have A Plan B (And C, And D…)
There’s nothing more disappointing than spending weeks getting
to know someone, only to have a bombshell dropped on you. Maybe
you find out the two of you don’t see eye to eye on politics or
religion, or maybe he’s starting to get flaky and you’ve simply
had enough. When things end, it can feel daunting to start from
scratch all over again: Right swipe, chat, text, first date,
second date…the process is exhausting. If you’re casually
dating a few people, or even just talking to someone else, it
can help ease you back into the dating scene after a “breakup”
with someone else.
4. You Aren’t Emotionally Dependent On One
It’s always a good thing to maintain your independence
because you’re less likely to get down in the dumps when
someone turns out to be less-than-stellar. Although you should
be happy and confident when you’re truly single, casually
dating a few people can be a way to stave off boredom and
loneliness while not getting so emotionally tangled up. If you
call the shots, it won’t be so devastating if something
terrible happens, like getting ghosted.
5. It Makes You More Open-Minded
If you’re not super into the idea of settling down with one
person at this exact moment in your life, it might open your
mind to casually dating someone you otherwise might pass over.
Maybe you typically prefer someone more clean-cut but are
intrigued by a cute, hipstery, bearded guy you met on
OkCupid. There’s no reason you shouldn’t try hanging out with
both of them; you might be surprised by the kinds of people you
vibe with when you broaden your horizons. Dating multiple
people at once gives you a golden opportunity to meet more
interesting people in a shorter time span.
6. It Curbs Boredom
This may sound like a dumb reason to date around, but if you’re
someone who craves social interaction more than you even crave
pizza, it might be helpful to have several people around to
hang out with on nights when your friends are otherwise
occupied. Even if you just call someone up and invite them over
to ~Netflix and chill~ it can still be better than
watching Friday Night Lights alone if you
happen to be a social butterfly.
7. More Sex
Though you’re by no means obligated to sleep with all the
people you’re currently dating, you’re
certainly allowed to, and what could be more
fun than the idea of seemingly endless sex? If one person is
into rough, kinky sex and another likes it slow and
gentle, it could be a great opportunity for you to experience
all the kinds of sex your body craves. More orgasms are always
You only get one go around on this earth, or at least that is
the most common belief. If you only date one person at a time
you limit a number of people that you get to know and have a
good time with.
Stop trying so hard to find “the one” right away and play the
field while you can. As long as you are honest, there is
nothing wrong with living it up while you can.
9. If you stick to one person, you might get
Sometimes when you date only one person, there is a natural
order to things. What I mean is that there are steps that you
are expected to take.
One day you wake up, and you are to the point where you are
serious and supposed to make the next move like move in or
marriage. You haven’t even had the time to really think about
what you are doing. Choosing someone for life shouldn’t be
about making the next step because it is expected or what you
are supposed to do.
10. You are too young to get
If you are too young to be serious about getting serious, then
only going out with one person might teach you about how to be
monogamous. But, is now really the time for that?
Being young is about trial and error and finding out what you
want and who you are. If you date the same person throughout
your entire childhood, how do you know that there isn’t someone
better suited out there that just might pass you by? Being
young is about experimenting. Experiment the hell out of
relationships while you have the chance.
11. You just got out of a super bad relationship,
don’t settle for a rebound
If you just got out of a bad relationship or a serious one that
you thought was the one, don’t start looking for something
serious to hop into. The rebound person is never the right one,
and not dating multiple people after a bad breakup can have you
making poor decisions that potentially alter the rest of your
life. Emotional heartbreak makes us do some pretty stupid
things. Give yourself some time to heal before you get too
12. You don’t want to lead someone on
It is good to date multiple people so that the person you are
with doesn’t think they are something more special than they
are to you. All too often we keep someone around as a cushion
until we find someone better and jump ship.
That isn’t fair to anyone. If you aren’t sure that the person
you are currently with is the right one for you, dating
multiple people lets them know they are free to do the same and
tells them where your head is at. If they can’t take it, then
they aren’t the one for you.
A serious relationship is something that there is always time
for when you find the right one and the time is right. If that
isn’t right now, then don’t try to convince yourself it is and
enjoy dating multiple people.